How to wear bras when you don’t have breasts

Before I begin, I’d like to reiterate a few very important points that I’ve made before:

1) Having breasts doesn’t make you a woman.

2) You don’t need breasts to be a woman.

3) Breasts are not innately sexual. 

This post is intended as a non-sexual guide to help anyone of any gender and sex navigate the bra and lingerie world without having breasts.

Since I wear a 30H/HH, this isn’t a fitting issue that I’ve experienced myself. And researching things like small-cup bras and breast forms was an entirely new world to me. But since this is an important subject to cover, I’m giving what advice I can! If you know of any good resources that I’ve missed, or have suggestions for how I can improve this post, please feel free to send me a message at questfortheperfectbra@gmail.com. 

Many transwomen and MAAB (male-assigned at birth) genderqueer people who wear bras don’t get implants- either by choice or by lack of funds. While there are plenty of articles on dealing with unwanted breast tissue (binding, reductions, etc), there’s aren’t that many readily available (non-fetishized) resources for measuring for and buying bras when you don’t have breasts. Whether you’d like to wear bras to create the illusion of more breast tissue or you simply enjoy lingerie, you deserve resources that can help you feel more comfortable and confident both in public and in the bedroom.

How to measure:

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Since this bra will be fitting your body, you need to make sure you have a good fit. First measure your underbust (just below your breast tissue/pectoral muscle), exhaling. Remember to keep the measuring tape horizontal, while pulling it comfortably snug (if you have back fat, it’s okay if the tape cuts in a bit). If this measurement is odd, round up to the closest even number. Next, measure the fullest point of your bust horizontally (usually around the nipple)- my photo shows this measurement over breasts, but the same principles apply.

To get a starting size, subtract the underbust measurement from the bust measurement. A difference of 1″ is an A cup, a difference of 2″ is a B cup, etc. Your underbust measurement is the band size . So someone whose underbust is 27″ and bust is 30″ will have a starting size of 28B. A 34″ underbust and 35″ bust will yield a 34A.

Now that you have measurements and a starting size, you can begin to figure out what bra size(s) you should try:

If you’re not intending to use breast forms or stuffing:

Since there isn’t much tissue to support and no extra materials to hold in place, you may find yourself more comfortable in a looser band. Every time you go up a band, you should also go down a cup size.  And vice-versa. This is because cup sizes are proportional- a 38DD is much bigger than a 28DD, and a 28DD has the same cup volume as a 38AA. The relation between differently sized bras with the same volume cups is known as “sister sizing”.

So if your starting size is a 32C, you might try a 34B or 36A. If you measure as a 28D, you may be able to wear a 30C or 32B… maybe even a 34A, in brands where the band runs snug. And if you measure as a 24C, you could wear a 26B or 28A.

Some caveats:

  • If you measure as an A cup, you may not have much room to move up in the band– some brands do offer AA and AAA cups, but they may not be available in many band sizes.
  • Bands smaller than 28 are quite difficult to find (though a number of Polish brands make them, they are usually custom orders and, the sizing isn’t terribly consistent).
  • Most importantly, sizing is a bit different between brands, and often even between styles (and colours) within brands.

Stuffing:

Since the bra will need to hold the stuffing firmly in place, you’ll want a snug band. Your starting band size is a good place to start. But while the band size may not need adjusting, your raw measurements won’t allow enough space in the cups, so you’ll have to adjust the cup size as needed. To make sure you have the right size, it’s best to try on the bra with the stuffing you plan on using. Again, every bra will fit differently, so it’s important to find a good fit based on how it feels on your body- not just the size on the tag!

If you’re only looking to add a little bit of volume, “cookies” (foam ovals covered in fabric) and “chicken cutlets” (silicone inserts) are a subtle way to add about 1-2 cup sizes. If you want more volume, you can layer cookies and cutlets or combine cutlets/cookies with a heavily padded bra. The cutlets seem to only come in clear and beige, while cookies are available in a wider range of colours (and can potentially be dyed). Braza seems to have a good selection of cutlets!

Here are some cookies (black and pale beige) as well as almost-cutlets (these are liquid-filled rather than solid silicone):

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I don’t suggest stuffing with socks or other fabric, as it will be lumpy and hard. I’ve also heard of filling plastic baggies with hair gel and sealing them with duct tape, but that sounds like a huge mess waiting to happen.

Some bras come with pockets sewn in to hold padding (and bras for breast forms are sewn with pockets to hold the forms). If you can’t find an affordable bra with pockets but have decent sewing skills, you could consider adding pockets, as they will keep the padding much more secure!

Breast forms:

I know next to nothing about breast forms, so I can’t give too much advice. One thing that stood out to me from my research is that it’s quite difficult to find non-apricot coloured breast forms. Amoena does make a few in a slightly darker tone, but unfortunately, the “standard” colour is a sort of medium-caucasian. This is an issue with bras, too (beige is frequently named “nude”), but not quite to this extent. After a few hours of searching, I did manage to find a few places that sell more than just one or two medium skin tones, but the results weren’t particularly heartening.

A snug band will do the best job of keeping your breast forms in place. But since each company has a slightly different method for sizing their breast forms, it’s best to start with their sizing chart and find a good fit from there. You may need to go down a few band sizes and up a few cup sizes from what they suggest in order to have a sturdy and supportive bra. If you can, get your bust measurement while wearing the pocketed bra they suggest for your breast form size.

Using your underbust measurement and bust measurement (with forms), you can figure out your bra size. Subtract the underbust (ribcage) measurement from the bust measurement. Each inch of difference is about equivalent to a cup size. A difference of 1″ is an A cup, 2″ = B, … 6″ = E (UK size), etc. UK sizes run: A, B, C, D, DD, E, F, FF, G, GG, H, HH, J, JJ, K, KK, etc. Your underbust measurement is your band size. For example, a ribcage of 30″ and a bust of 40″ should be around a size 30GG. If you want a slightly looser band, try going up a band size and down a cup size – a 32G should fit like a 30GG, but with a slightly looser band. If the calculation is overwhelming, you can try a bra-size calculator like this one!

Of course, since each bra fits differently, you may need to try a handful of sizes before you find a good fit. Plus, many of these sizes may not be available with pockets– so you may find that you need to sew in your own.

Here are a few online shops that sell and explain sizing for breast forms:

Amoena - A brand that makes breast forms, bras, and swimwear (designed as post-mastectomy bras). Most items are available in “ivory”, though some are available in both “ivory” and “tawny”.

Braza – No colour options beyond beige, but the breast forms are on the cheaper end.

The Breast Form Store – Breast forms (many different brands), bras, lingerie, wigs, makeup, etc.

  • TW: misgendering and sexualization. The website is specifically for crossdressers and transgender individuals– I’m not thrilled that they lump those two categories, and they refer to transwomen as “transgendered male”. I think they mean “trans maab person”, but it’s uncomfortable to read. The sexualized descriptions of many of the items on their website is also a bit uncomfortable. However, it does seem like a generally safe space.
  • They have a page on fitting for breast forms and bras. A few things that jumped out at me. 1) They add 4 or 5 inches to the band measurement, which I would caution you about doing. Unless the band does run tight (which is the case with some bras made for breast forms), wearing a bra with a too-loose band won’t do the best job of holding your forms in place. 2) They suggest wearing your bra on the middle hooks right off the bat. But as you wear a bra, the band will stretch over time. If you’d like to prolong the life of your bra, I suggest buying one that fits on the loosest hooks (and buying a bra extender ($2-5) if you’re worried about weight fluctuations). 3) Their bit about cup size seems rather irrelevant, as they already acknowledge that a 38C is smaller in the cup than a 40C. Plus, breast forms are usually sized by cup volume rather than letters (since the cup letters are meaningless without a band size). Anyway, DD isn’t huge or “asking to be noticed”…
  • Not a great selection in terms of skin tones, but they do have many sizes.

Magic Curves – Pale is still the “standard”, black is “chocolate”, and there isn’t much in terms of sizing… but they do have 4 skin tones to choose from, which is the best I’ve found so far.

Park Mastectomy – Their fit advice is questionable, but they do have a page of breast forms available in “dark tones”.

Important caveat: some bras built to hold breast forms are made with extremely snug bands- and since bra sizing isn’t a terribly standardized thing, it’s always good to check the measurements of the bra if possible!

How to shop for bras:

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Camille demi-cup bra (Image via Lula Lu)

Trying things on is the best bet for getting a well-fitted bra. But many sizes are difficult to find in stores, and bra stores or lingerie sections of department stores aren’t always the most welcoming places. If you can find a trans*-friendly bra store or have a friend go shopping with you, it will certainly make things less scary.

Alternatively, you can shop online. Be prepared: the first few you try may not fit. I recommend sticking with one bra that you like and trying sizes until you find your fit for that bra. Some stores, like Nordstrom, offer free shipping both ways, which makes this process a LOT easier. You can buy bras cheaply on eBay, but you usually can’t return them, so make sure you know which size to order first.

A few recommended online shops that carry small band/small cup bras:

Cleo by Panache – this well-know full-bust brand will be adding C and D cups in 28-38 bands in their AW2014 collection

The Little Bra Company - carries sizes 28-38A, 28-36B, and 28-34C

Little Women – carries sizes 28-40 AAA-B

Lula Lu -carries sizes 32-36AAA, 30-38AA/A, 32-36B, and 32-34C

A few recommended online shops that carry large band/small cup bras:

Bigger Bras – carries AA cups up to a 44 band, A cups up to a 50 band, and B cups up to a 58 band.

Simply Be -carries A cups up to a 54 band

Leading Lady - carries A cups up to a 50 band

Little Women - carries sizes 28-40 AAA-B (yup, it made BOTH lists)

For pocketed bras (to hold breast forms), check out the breast forms links in the previous section.

Don’t be afraid to branch out!

Lingerie can be a lot of fun! Corsets (underbust or overbust with stuffing) are a great way to experiment with curves and they look great, with or without breasts. For less of a fitting challenge, pasties, bralettes, and harnesses are always an option. And stockings and garter belts are a beautiful and (often more comfortable) alternative to tights or hold-ups.

Alterations: how to deal with awkwardly wide gores

So I managed to find time to fiddle with the gore on my Chantelle Icone. I removed the awkward strip of fabric that was holding the cups together, and sewed the underwires directly to each other. To deal with the awkwardness of the resulting band line (or lack thereof), I reattached the strip of fabric lower down.

It’s a quick post, and the photos aren’t great, but they do show the alteration. The results (before/padding removed/gore altered):

Before:

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Padding removed:

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Gore altered:IconeGore

Before:

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Padding removed:

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Gore altered:

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Before:

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Padding removed:

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Gore altered:

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Now if only I can find some navy or purple mesh… I might even make an inner sling! But even without that addition, this bra feels stable enough to wear out, and it no longer looks dumpy from the front. Success!

Comexim Iris Review!

Though I had just ordered it, I decided to include this lovely bra in my Valentine’s Day wishlist… I was that excited about it! I placed my custom order for a 65K Iris bra with reduced cups and gore (and narrow wires) on January 16th. The ordering process was fairly painless. A friend from a facebook bra group was willing to help translate for me, which was extremely helpful, especially when making a custom order!

After hearing stories about how even non-custom orders from Poland can take ages to ship, I prepared for a long wait. Thus, I was pleasantly surprised (okay, no, I was ecstatic) when a package from Poland showed up on February 1st! I was even more ecstatic when I opened the packaged and tried the bra on- this bra is beautiful, beautifully made, soft as silk, and fits like a dream!

Why did I choose to have the bra made with reduced cups and gore and narrow underwires? About a year ago, I bought a cheap used Comexim Giselle in a 60L to gauge my size with the brand before ordering. Of course, being broke, it took me ages to actually place an order… and in that time, I managed to miss Juliette (still heartbroken about that one).

I actually stalled on writing this post, because I was waiting to get photos that show just how amazing it is… but taking photos of oneself is a challenge, and I don’t have a photographer on hand, so I’m posting this now with photos that don’t do it justice. Anyway, here are a few photos of this beautiful bra:

(It almost camouflages with my sheets…)

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Best “front” view I could get (taking photos of oneself is a challenge, to say the least):IrisAngle

View from the top:IrisTop

The excellent cleavage:

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The band (angles are a little odd, the band is actually more horizontal than it appears here):

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Fit: The band is a little bit smaller than I would have expected, but I can wear it without an extender. The cups fit perfectly. I have a lot of upper tissue, and didn’t have any issues with the top of the cup cutting in, so it’s relatively open at the top.

Size Consistency: While I only have one other Comexim bra to compare this to, I looked at a lot of Bratabase measurements and asked people for some subjective reviews, too… and it seems like my experience was not uncommon. Cup size is very consistent with Comexim, but bands vary depending on how stretchy the material is.

Comfort: The foam padding, elastic, and lace fabric are all extremely soft. The band would be more comfortable if it stretched slightly more, but that’s more of a fit than comfort issue. ;)

Looks: The dark plum lace is really sophisticated, and it’s beautiful (both on and off), but I’d categorize this a relatively simple/plain bra, since it’s a simple plunge shape covered with a nice fabric (no added frills, geometric fabric details, unusual cup shape, etc). Simple and gorgeous.

Shape: This is a true plunge on me. Had I not ordered reduced cups and gore, I would have ended up with a full-coverage bra… it seems as though the models must be wearing loose bands and too-small cups, but I think this is an issue with almost every bra company (and that’s a post in itself). Anyway, it’s a great plunge, and the cups are extremely rounded.

Overall: This is one of my all-time favourite bras. I need narrow underwires and deep cups, which Comexim does quite well… and the option to customize is really helpful, too! As I mentioned in my Green-Things post, I hope to get a Green Velvet soon! I’m also really curious about the new half-cup bras that have been appearing on the website. If you’d like to order the Iris bra, you can do so on the Comexim website.

No shamrock shakes for me, but lingerie in shades of green is delightful!

I hate mint flavoured foods- mint chocolate totally grosses me out, and a mint milkshake? Eww. I think it’s because I associate the taste of mint with clean teeth. Mint tea and peppermint candies are fine, but the feel of food on my teeth combined with the taste of mint just isn’t a pleasant thing to me. So the other day when I cringed at signs advertising the yearly McDonald’s “shamrock shake”, it dawned on me that St. Patrick’s day (and the resulting wave of green things) was approaching.

Now I’m not advocating for the cheesy shamrock printed faux-corsets, sparkly green one-size-fits all bras, and other novelty lingerie (that’s just not my thing)… but it did get me thinking about green lingerie in general. I think it’s safe to guess that the colours most people associate with lingerie are black, red, pink, white, and maybe purple. Why not green? Truth be told, there isn’t a lot of green lingerie out there. It’s not thought of as a “sexy” colour, and we all know that big lingerie brands (I’m looking at you, VS!) put sexy above all. But green can be sexy… and lingerie doesn’t need to be sexy!

Thus, I present a list of gorgeous green lingerie:

Oscar de la Renta Green Lace Trim Charmeuse Robe (sold out)

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Of course, it’s sold out now… but what a lovely green silk robe.

Kiss Me Deadly Emerald DeVille collection (via Kiss Me Deadly)

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The bra is only available in 32B-38DD, but the briefs, corsetsuspender skirt, and stockings should work for most of my readers! (If you’re lucky enough to fit into the bra size range, I envy you!)

Claudette En Dentelle in Intense Green (discontinued, but they’re still around on some websites)

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It’s a gorgeous bra, available in sizes 30-38 A-G. I tried this in a 32G over the summer and it really, really didn’t work out for me. I think it was partly an issue with shape compatability…  but the bra didn’t feel too sturdy, so I wouldn’t recommend it for heavier breasts. I can see this bra working really well for smaller cup volumes, though!

Figleaves Boudoir Tease Silk and Lace set in Emerald ($178 via Figleaves)

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I haven’t tried it, but I keep eyeing it. Available in sizes 30-36 B-G (though, oddly, there are two listings for this bra on the Figleaves website, each listing different sizes available), this demi-bra is a refreshing change from the full coverage bras usually available for larger busts. Since I haven’t tried it, I don’t know whether the larger cup sizes are well proportioned (even “demi” bras are often actually full-coverage in larger sizes), but reviews on the Figleaves website leave me hopeful.

Fauve Bronte longline set in Pistachio (~$250, not available yet)

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The Fauve Bronte made it onto my Valentine’s Day wishlist in the silver/creme colourway, and it’s back again in Pistachio! This stunning set is available in sizes 30D-G, and 32-38 B-G. Since longline bands fit smaller and give more support than thinner bands (I did try a Freya 32G longline in a store recently), I think the 34G might be okay for this bra, so I may not be entirely sized out! It also comes in Jade (a jade/black combo)… which just doesn’t really do it for me. But the Pistachio colourway is fabulous and exciting! The creme lace with the chartreuse is a stunning and very spring-like combination.

Comexim Green Velvet set (~$55 plus shipping via Comexim)

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The set that inspired the list: Comexim’s Green Velvet. It’s available in a whole host of ready to order sizes on their website, and you can order custom sizes, too! (Be advised: custom orders are non-returnable.) Because of this, this is also the only bra I’ve listed here that I’m not technically sized out of. Now I could easily start a rant about how frustrating it is that companies assume that people with larger breasts don’t want beautiful lingerie, but that’s really another post altogether. Anyway, I’ve still yet to review the custom Iris I received (spoiler alert: it is incredible!), but I’d love for this to be my next Comexim set. It’s been around for a while, but I keep thinking about it. Plus, with the quality, great shape, and fit customization of Comexim bras, it’s definitely going to look great!

Project: removing the padding from a bra

Remember this bra? I mentioned it a while back. It’s the Chantelle Icone push-up bra in Iris- one of the most beautiful pieces of lingerie I’ve ever seen.

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I worked hard to find this bra. I hunted it down, had a retailer from France order it direct from Chantelle for me, and payed way more than I should have for it. It was a 36DD (back when I was wearing 32Fs) and I thought I could make it work. Of course, as luck would have it, it never really fit me. I took the cookies out, but it was still too small for me to actually wear.

And so it languished in my drawer for a while… I took the band in (sloppily) and made it into a 28G(ish). Still too small for my breasts (which were still growing), I stubbornly kept it around.

I was a little sad to find it when I was unpacking a few weeks ago. It hadn’t been worn in ages, and it was miles too small… it was 4-5 cups too small and the band felt tight (partially due to the cups being too small). Since I was going to have to throw it away, I decided to experiment a bit. I wasn’t sure whether it was possible (or worthwhile) to remove the padding from the bra, but I figured that I had nothing to lose, and quite a bit to gain.

Here are some before photos:

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The horrific overspill:iconebefore1

And the total lack of support (my breasts are barely even in the cups):iconebefore2iconebefore3

And it was fairly successful! I don’t get much support, and it looks odd from the front… but it’s no longer cutting in, and it’s definitely wearable as boudoir lingerie. Here are some after photos:

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No more overspill!

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Still not great from the front, though…

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How did I do it? I didn’t manage to get any photographs of the process, so I’ll try to describe it clearly. 

Step 1: Pick out stitching that holds the lace overlay to the foam along the top and sides of the cup. The elastic bits on the sides will have to come apart in order to separate the lace from the foam. You can resew this later.

Step 2: Cut (very, very carefully) the foam as close to the underwires as possible, being sure to avoid cutting the lace.

Step 3: Fold the lace back into the elastic part at the sides of the cup and, using a loose zig-zag stitch, sew the lace back to the elastic.

Step 4: Feel brilliant. And thrifty!

Anyway, I’m happy I didn’t have to part with it, but it’s still not great on me. If I get around to it, I’m considering taking out the bit of fabric between the cups and sewing the underwires together, which will make the cups a bit more stable. I am also considering finding a fabric to create an inner “sling” with, which would help give the bra a bit more structural support.

Band Size Confusions

What does band size mean?

I keep hearing people call a band that stretches to 29″ or 30″ a “true 30″. That makes zero sense to me, since I measure band size with an exhaled measurement and would consider someone with an exhaled measurement of 30″ to be a 30 band, so the band would need to stretch to 32-33″ for them to be able to breathe. However, if you measure for bands with a fully-inhaled measurement, a 30 band would only need to stretch to 30″ (29″, though, would still be a bit too small to call a “true” 30).

Some other factors (bodies): Ribcages expand different amounts. My snug exhaled measurement is 29″… my tight fully-inhaled measurement is 32″ (3″ difference). My friend’s ribcage expands from 28″ to 33″ (5″ difference). From our exhaled measurements, my friend would end up in a smaller band… but being able to breathe is important! So she’s more comfortable in a 32 band, whereas 30s are usually fine for me.

What does size on the label mean? 

Some brands call a band that stretches to 30″ a 30… and some call a band that stretches to 33″ (and would fit someone with an exhaled ribcage measurement of 30″) a 30. Basically, it varies by brands. Here’s a fairly random list of stretched band lengths of various 30-band bras (measured with full but not-breaking-elastic stretch). Check out the range:

  • Tutti Rouge Betty (creme) 30GG: 28.5″
  • Ewa Michalak SM Burek 65H/30H: 29″
  • Ewa Michalak PL Black 65HH/30HH: 29″
  • Curvy Kate Entice (black) 30HH: 29″
  • Comexim Iris: 29″
  • Parfait Charlotte (dusky rose) 30HH: 29.5″
  • Cleo Meg: 29.5″
  • Parfait Casey (light blue) 30G: 30″
  • Freya Deco (black) 30GG: 31″
  • Cleo Sasha 30GG: 31″
  • Freya Deco (beige) 30G: 32.5″

I have 32 and 34 band bras that fit much tighter than the beige 30G Deco, and 28 band bras that fit significantly looser than the 30GG Tutti Rouge Betty!

Now I haven’t by any means done a comprehensive analysis, but my guess is as follows: Comexim, Ewa Michalak, and Parfait seem to label their bands with a fully-stretched measurement, whereas Freya band sizes appear to match up with a slightly-stretched measurement. Thus, using a snug inhaled measurement as band-size will be more likely to get you a well-fitting bra with Comexim, Ewa Michalak, and Parfait and using a snug exhaled measurement as band-size will probably get you a good fit in brands that size like Freya.

Some other factors (bras): Even within the same style bra, different colors and even cup sizes can affect band stretch! Dark dyes can make a band fit a full size smaller than its light colored counterparts… my 30GG black Deco is a lot tighter than its beige counterpart.

And cup size is also interesting- a 30HH bra will have more non-stretch cup material taking up the band space than a 30D will have. I don’t have a huge size range of bras in the same style, but I do happen to have a 28H (blue) and a 28HH (black) Curvy Kate Tease Me:

banddiff2banddiffThe bras are both 28 bands, but the 28H has more material beyond the underwires than the 28HH. This is because the underwires on the 28HH are wider than the underwires on the 28H. While the width of the underwires does make the overall unstretched lengths of the bras roughly equal, this photo shows that the 28H has the capacity for a good deal more stretch than the 28HH. It doesn’t quite feel like a full bandsize difference, but that’s because we’re comparing bras that are only one cup size apart. I’d love to see this compared in a wide range (e.g. 30D-30J) to show just how much cup size (really, underwire width) affects stretched band length. Some brands may make up for this by adding length to the band in larger cup sizes, but there are at least slight difference within a range of a few cup sizes.

Which one is right?

Niether. How we chose to measure and label is arbitrary. But having different systems in play can make an already confusing task even more confusing. I’d love to see this standardized, but I don’t think it will happen any time soon.

But remember that different brands size their bands differently! If you use your exhaled measurement as a band size to order from a company that labels their bands with their fully-stretched measurement, you’re going to have some trouble breathing. Likewise, if you use an inhaled measurement as a band size to order from a company that labels their bands with their slightly stretched measurements, you’ll end up with a band 1-2 sizes too big for you.

Valentine’s Day Wishlist

I finally found a place to live. Things are still stressful, but I’m excited to be blogging again.

I don’t usually do wishlists like this, but seeing all of my fellow-bloggers’ wishlists inspired me to jump on the bandwagon and share some of the pieces (not just bras!) that I have been lusting after!

What Katie Did Storm corset ($350)storm

I’ve been wanting a corset for ages, and the Storm corset from What Katie Did seems like a solid choice- it’s beautiful, well-made, and relatively simple. I’d love an embroidered or lace-covered corset, too… but if I’m going to have just one, it’d be this one.

Rosamosario Mezza Luna lace-appliquéd silk-chiffon robe ($875, sold out)

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It’s sold out… and I’d never be able to afford it, anyway, but wow this is one of the most gorgeous pieces I’ve ever seen! Teal and gold happen to be one of my favourite colour combinations, and this robe does a spectacular job of combining rich colors and fabrics without looking tacky.

Angela Friedman Clair de Lune robe ($295 for ivory$265 for black)

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Yet another robe(s) I’ve fallen in love with! Less outrageously expensive than the last, but still way out of my budget. The black, sadly, doesn’t come with lace on the sleeves, but I suppose that accounts for the price difference. The ivory one would look stunning with an ivory corset and stockings. And I think I already own enough black lingerie to pair with the black robe…

Gossard Opulence set ($130.20)

opulenceThe bra stops at an E cup, which makes me really, really sad… but I could always get the thong and suspenders, right? Or maybe I could get a 38E and try to take in the band? (Or really replace the band entirely, which would be a crazy project.) Really, though, this is a beautiful set! If you’re lucky enough to fit into their size range, I envy you!

Fauve Lucia set ($200)fauve-lucia-chocolateAlso not available in my size (currently around a 30HH), but the 32G or maybe even a 34G would be worth a shot. I’ve never really thought about brown lingerie as being sexy, since it’s always fallen under the category of “skin tone neutrals”… but, damn, this is lovely! This set would be gorgeous and subtle on dark skin and rather stark on pale skin like mine. 

Fauve Bronte set (~$225)bronte silver

Same brand, same sizing situation… except that  longline bands run tighter, which means that a 34G might actually fit me! The pale blue/silver and creme is a surprisingly beautiful colour combination (and, oddly, doesn’t look too “bridal” to me), and the laces and embroidery are beautifully crafted! Figleaves doesn’t have any 34s left, though, and there don’t seem to be too many other stores that stock this that will ship to the US.

Are you wondering where the Ewa Michalak and Comexim bras are on my list? I just placed orders with both of them, and, since it’s a wish-list, I didn’t want to put ones I’ve already bought right at the top… but I couldn’t exactly leave these off, as they are perfect for a Valentine’s Day list:

Ewa Michalak HM Burek (photo shows SM style)

HM Burek

So gorgeous! It doesn’t scream “Valentine’s Day!”, but it’s a delicate and beautiful lace, which wins it a spot on this list. I actually got this in a 65H SM  from someone via a Bratabase swap, but it cut into my tissue pretty badly, so I’m trying a 65H HM. Fingers crossed!

Ewa Michalak SM Malinka

SM MALINKAIs this too cliche? I don’t usually go for red/pink (this is supposedly a reddish pink color), but the lace was so gorgeous that I couldn’t help but try it! I wanted to order this in the HM style, but they ran out of fabric and could not do the custom order. I got the SM (in a 70HH, the closest size available), just in case it does work on me… 

Comexim Iris

Iris

Another lovely lace! Juliette (aka the most beautiful bra ever) was sold out before I managed to place an order, but I didn’t lose Iris! About a year ago, I  bought a used 60L Giselle to gauge my size in this brand and found it snug in the band and too high in the cups (but almost too small). So I  decided to get a 65K with lowered cups and gore… this bra is super pretty, and I really hope my crazy-custom ordering will work out here!

And since this is a wishlist, I should mention that anyone is welcome to help me buy items from this list! On my “about” page, I’ve added a section explaining how to tip/donate, if you’re so inclined.